Confidence in Leadership: Belief in Yourself / Positive Self-Talk
OK be honest. Have you ever completed a project, a meeting, a presentation – and returned to your desk only to wonder, “Did that go OK?” “Did I seem like I knew what I was talking about?” “Are other people questioning my abilities?” “Am I a good leader?” If any of these sound familiar – you won’t want to miss this episode on your journey to ‘Confident Leadership’!
[Alicia Davis] Hello, I’m Alicia Davis.
[Stacie Watson] And I’m Stacie Watson.
[Alicia Davis] We are the founders and co-owners of Transformative Leadership Strategies, a coaching, training, and team-building company. And we want to thank you for downloading our guide to Skyrocketing Your Confidence as a Leader. And we were very excited to create this guide and these videos to go along with it because we hear from our leaders in the coaching that we do across the board, that confidence is often challenging, isn’t it, Stacie?
[Stacie Watson] Well, it certainly is. I mean, for one thing, it’s a really big word. And it can mean different things in different moments that can look different ways, depending on situations, from person-to-person confidence appears, you know, sort of very uniquely and specifically to a person. So it makes it difficult to sort of talk about, I think, and one of the things that we felt would be helpful is to take this really big idea and break it into some component parts factors we call them, which just help us understand different ways that confidence, not only can sort of show up as a leader but ways we might actually be able to kind of break it down and build confidence in very specific components or factors.
[Alicia Davis] That’s right. That’s right. And we created a confidence wheel as really the center of this guide that we sent you. And so today on the the factor that we’re focusing on, is belief in yourself. And positive self-talk. Stacie, I don’t think there is anybody in the world that consistently believes in themselves and has positive self-talk. And, you know, we, I know for myself, I know, you know, in the people that we coach that, you know, beliefs can change as we can often feel like, we can’t do something the way that we want to do something, and then we get really judgy and critical of ourselves. And let’s talk about that shared experience of our clients, because we have a whole list of possibilities on this one, right?
[Stacie Watson] 100%. I mean, I think what you said is so true that I think most of us at one moment or another in our lives, and maybe many moments in our lives, have had these moments of self-doubt. And that sort of chatter that goes on in our brains and in our minds about, “Am I in the right position?” “Am I going to be able to be successful?” “Did they pick the right person?” And it’s so interesting, it doesn’t really seem to matter what role a person has, I feel like you know if you’re listening to this, no matter what your title is, or what box you sit in the org chart, right, you can probably relate to the experience of self-doubt. And so I think as a coach, one of the things that I know I tried to do is just to remind whoever I’m working with, someone thought you were the right person to be in that box on the org chart, someone saw the possibility, the potential, the skills, and the talent. And sometimes when we’re not feeling it internally, looking for that external validation can be helpful just to sort of help us shift a little bit. And I think there are some other things we can do, also. Right, Alicia?
[Alicia Davis] You know, I actually this factor is, it’s a little tricky, right? Because we can get so in our heads so quickly. And one of the things that I like to say is just when you’re noticing that you’re being really critical, judgmental, snarky, you know, like all of those things, that if you said them out loud, they wouldn’t sound very nice, right? To really notice when that’s happening, and to see if instead of, of being judgmental, to be able to, perhaps pause for a moment and see if you can become a little curious. Like, curiosity counteracts judgment, right?
[Stacie Watson] For sure.
[Alicia Davis] And so when you can notice that when you can, perhaps, just pause and maybe even give yourself a pat on the back. Right? And so wherever you are on that, you know, on the self-assessment, the one is, you know what, I’m kind of snarky and cranky with myself a lot. And ten is, you know I can shift and change my perspective and my energy and my approach. Wherever you land on that, first of all, be curious about it. And then see if there’s one thing that you might do or notice, to begin to shift a little bit to improve your confidence. We can put that in the guide at the bottom. And we would love to hear – so you can email us at info@TLStransforms.com. And thanks for watching we really appreciate you.
[Stacie Watson] Thank you.
